2020 was quite a shit filled year that had a considerable effect on our mental health and our wellbeing. Along with the sh*t, 2020 brought some important lessons too which I would be grateful for. Like I stated in my 2020 review, 2020 did see me comparing myself to others, being less confident, and all and the fact that we left 2020 behind and we are now in 2021 doesn’t mean we will automatically do away with the damage 2020 did to us and our mental health. Like I said before, I learnt a lot from 2020, the lessons I learnt from 2020 have made me want to improve and become an even better version of myself in 2021 and so I have decided to share some not-so-simple but effective tips that will help you be your best self this year.

Tips to help you be your best self this year

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STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS

This is such a big one. In a world like this, it can be very easy to compare ourselves to others but in order to bring out the best version of ourselves, we need to stop comparing ourselves to others. In life we only see a small amount of what someone is going through. Someone can look so happy, fulfilled, beautiful and all round amazing but the same person is going through a whole lot. Basically, we see only about 5-10% of what a person is going through and no matter how hard we try, we will never be able to know 100% what someone is going through. Not all that glitters is gold and not everything we see is what it seems like it is. We only know ourselves and what we are going through and the fact that not all is really as perfect as it seems, the fact that everyone has problems regardless of how happy and wonderful they may look, seem or appear is a great reason why you should never compare yourself with others. Also, we are all running different races. Everyone’s race is different, everyone’s journey is different and everyone’s destination is different too so instead of comparing yourself with others, focus on your own race, let yourself know that no one is perfect and let yourself know that you are best being you. 

DECLUTTER OFTEN

Ever heard the phrase “A cluttered environment leads to a cluttered mind?” I can’t function properly when there’s a clutter be it an environmental clutter, a clutter on my phone, or any clutter at all. Decluttering helps clear the mind and it also help you to be more productive. If you want to be able to think more clearly, be more productive and have a clearer mind, you should definitely give decluttering a try. I declutter my devices (phone & laptop) once every week and it is always super helpful. Decluttering also boosts mental health and I find that I feel better, my mood brightens up and I get all jazzed up when I declutter. Decluttering does wonders for me, my mental health and my overall wellbeing so you should give it a try!

BE YOUR BIGGEST CHEERLEADER, SUPPORT SYSTEM OR WHATEVER YOU WANNA CALL IT

Whether you accept it or not, the most important person in your life is you and if you really want to be the best version of yourself, you have to be your biggest hype man/woman. Success and being the best version of yourself will always seem far fetched if you are your biggest critic. There’s nothing wrong with giving yourself constructive criticism but when the only thing you are good at is criticizing yourself then you are subconsciously writing your own death sentence. Be your biggest cheerleader, celebrate your success no matter how little it is. Believe that there is absolutely nothing you cannot do. Being your biggest cheerleader might not be anything near easy but it is possible and if you are looking for ways to be your biggest support system/hype man or woman, positive affirmations can really help you be your biggest cheerleader. 

BE NICE TO PEOPLE

Pretty much everyone is broken. Everyone has something that is bothering them and you being nice to someone can really make that person’s day. Believe it or not, there is this sense of fulfillment that comes with being nice to people. When you are nice to people, you open doors for concrete relationships, you will be happier as being nice to people and making other people happy has a way of making you feel happy too. Doing something nice for someone automatically makes you feel better so do your best to spread joy, kindness and cheer everywhere you go! 

TAKE IT EASY ON YOURSELF

Life has it’s ups and downs, we can sometimes end up taking things really hard on ourselves, we can end up putting too much pressure on ourselves and all but learning to take it easy on yourself even when the going gets tough can really help improve your overall wellbeing and mental health. Whenever you feel like you aren’t doing too much or you aren’t performing as expected, instead of beating yourself up, take it easy on yourself, you are doing so much better than you think! 

9 tips to help you be your best self this year

LEARN TO HAVE FUN

We only have one life to live so why should we make sadness a part of our daily life when we are supposed to be having as much fun as we can because we never know when we are gonna say goodbye. In my goals for 2021, one of the goals I mentioned was that I wanted to stop taking things too seriously as taking things less seriously will definitely add a little humor and fun in my life. I take things a little too seriously but this year I have started to take things less seriously and be a little more humorous. I also want to up my “NOT GIVING A FUCK GAME”. I want to care less about people who only wanna dim my light cos it’s shining in their eyes. It’s not like I have ever cared about those kind of people, it’s just I want to care even less about them. The less I care, the merrier, happier and more fun it’ll be.

FOCUS ON THE GOOD IN EVERY SITUATION

As easy as this might sound, this is by far one of the hardest things to actually do. It can be so hard to ignore the bad and just focus on the positives but focusing on the good in every situation does have a way of making the bad seem less important. Deliberately choosing to see and acknowledge the positives in any situation has really helped me. Beautiful things happen when you choose to focus on the positives regardless of how bad the situation is. If you encounter any negative experience this year, try your best to focus on the positives instead of the negatives and you’ll realize that there is power in choosing to focus on the positives.

WORK TOWARDS ACHIEVING YOUR GOALS

Creating goals are a thing but goals never come to reality without your efforts. So many people are guilty of creating goals without working towards achieving them (I used to be so good at creating goals without working towards achieving them). If you did set goals at the beginning of this year just like I did, work towards achieving your goals. Your effort counts. Your goals are like dreams, they are heights you are trying to reach and no goal would be achieved by just sitting and folding your arms so get up and put in the effort!

BY ALL MEANS PRACTICE SELF LOVE & CARE

I am a big advocate for self love & self care but I don’t practice self care as much as I should. Being an advocate for self care doesn’t make a difference unless you actually practice what you preach. Self love and self care is very important. You can’t really move mountains if you don’t love or care for yourself so this new year, make self love and self care a compulsory thing. 

BONUS TIPS

DO NOT WORRY ABOUT ANYONE’S OPINION

Do whatever you do for yourself. Do whatever you can to make *you* happy. This year, do not do anything to please anyone at the expense of your own happiness. Do everything to make you happy!

AVOID TOXIC PEOPLE

Avoid people or relationships that will harm you or your mental health. This year, your mental health and wellbeing should be your priority so avoid people or relationships that could lead you down the dark path. It can be hard to avoid toxic people. Sometimes a toxic person can be a close family member, a best friend or someone you can’t afford to cut out just like that but even if the toxic person in your life is a close/loved one, make sure to avoid them as nothing should be allowed to harm you, your wellbeing or your mental health. 

The secret of getting ahead is getting started.” – Mark Twain.

New years are a fresh start. A fresh slate. You have a chance to rewrite your destiny, improve yourself and make this year your best year yet so do not waste that opportunity!

I do hope you enjoyed reading this. What are some tips you are using to help you be your best self this year? Which of my tips would you use? Let me know in the comments!

Until next time,

Ruth xo!

36 Comments

  1. These are such great tips! Being your biggest cheerleader and stop comparing to yourself to others are my priorities this year! Not everyone is going to like you or your goals, there will always be people trying to bring you do down, but as you said you are the most important person in your life. Thanks for sharing x

  2. Love these tips! This year I'm really trying not to be so hard on myself, I can be a bit of a perfectionist and I have to learn to love and accept/grown from imperfection!

    Katie | katieemmabeauty.com

  3. Love this tips and they are similar to some of the tips I've just written on my blog! I think comparing yourself to people is something we all do naturally and once you get in the mindset of not doing that, you'll be a lot more positive and happy xx

  4. Such a great selection of tips. This year has been the year of decluttering for me and I am loving it. I swear the amount of stuff that just gets dumped in draws and cupboards is crazy. I'm trying to streamline all aspect of our home at the moment and our house feels so much better for it x

    Steph | http://www.stephhannam.com

  5. You have some great tips here <3 Focussing on the good is 100% what got me through last year! I like to try and find something good about each day – something to look forward to always helps me. I feel that it is more important than ever to not be too hard on yourself, it's a weird time at the moment. Love this xx

  6. These are all good tips to live by! I personally love decluttering and I also do it often! What I need to work on is not caring what others think. Thank you for these tips! 😊

  7. At the end of last year, I started really cutting out toxic people, and life has been so much better! Thank you for these tips.

  8. What an amazing list you've put together! There's so many tips in here than genuinely be really helpful. Personally I do need to chill out more and not let the silly things get to me. Also believing in my abilities more is a big one that I need to focus on. Thank you for sharing! Here's to a better year.

  9. Such a brilliant post and so many brilliant points as well! I definitely agree with avoiding toxic people as it can honestly make everything seem a bit easier and better. Also decluttering often is something I need to put into practice a lot more as I know how beneficial it can be. Thank you for sharing!

  10. This is really great advice. I am terrible for comparing myself to other people but it is something I am learning to stop doing.

    I think positivity is the greatest thing you can do for yourself. Looking at the world in a more positive light, things really do seem better x

  11. Oh I LOVE this post, Ruthie, it's spot on – especially the not giving a fuck game, haha. And yes to cutting out toxic influences, I didn't do that last year and it really affected me. Also a big yes to being our own cheerleaders – if we don't big ourselves up how can we expect anyone else to 🙂 x

  12. So many good pieces of advice but definitely not going to be easy to live up to them all personally. I would love to declutter more but I think it’s too deeply ingrained.

  13. These are some great tips. Trying to focus on the positives of any situation is definitely something I try to do. Its amazing how much that can keep your mood uplifted, even when things may be difficult.

  14. Great tips and all so important for your self growth and mindset and ultimately becoming the best version of you! x

  15. Just the post I needed to read today. It’s very true that our mental health took a beating last year, and continues as we stay isolated and apart. Great tips, and you motivated me to reach my goals today.

  16. I really need to declutter! I found a few years back that comparing myself to others only leads to feeling awful so I stopped doing it!

  17. First of all, I Love the look of your blog! Tackling the decluttering often is a great way to make sure you don’t get overwhelmed. Is it safe to admit I don’t declutter often enough? Especially on my devices. 2021 will be a new start.

  18. Oooh love these tips on having a better year. I am big on not comparing ourselves to others. We don't see everything that happens on social media. I like the idea of decluttering often. When you do it all at once, it is so overwhelming. You can't rely on others to be your cheerleader. The only person who can be it is yourself! So important that we keep on working on ourselves to be better. Thanks for sharing all of this!!

    Nancy ✨ mdrnminimalists.com

  19. Fantastic tips! We really fell behind on decluttering last year and so have our work cut out for us but you're so right, mess does create stress! Also 100% agree about toxic people. I had to end a decade old friendship last year and while it sucked, my mental health has massively improved. 🙂

  20. Great tips! I have some friends who don't take it easy on their selves, and it really does effect the mental health and productive. Thank you for sharing!

  21. Amazing post! These tips are so helpful and I will definitely try and follow them this year! I totally agree with the point about cutting out toxic people. It is hard but it is the best thing to do! Thank you for sharing this!

  22. These are some really helpful tips for people to use to better themselves this year.
    Let’s hope it is a safer and happier year for us all.

    Lauren

  23. I love that you included the importance of taking it easy on yourself. I am definitely guilty of coming down on myself too hard far too often. I set these expectations that exceed what I expect from other people in my life. I've had to take a step back and challenge myself to look at my situations as if I were helping a friend and see if I have the same response to it.

  24. Wow what a beautiful post! These are such wonderful and important tips to keep in mind when it comes to being your best self. Avoiding toxic people is a big one and something I learned the hard way but I am happy that I stood up for myself and changed my environment and who I let in it. Decluttering is one of my favorite things to do too! Clean home, clean environment, clean mind! Thank you for sharing

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