Self love is a journey and it’s different for everyone. The importance of self love can never be overemphasized. Self love means a whole lot of different things ranging from loving and accepting yourself to not letting anyone put you down or make you feel like less of a person. We talk about self love a lot but what some of us fail to realize is that self love is not just a statement. It is something we practice. It is something we do. And it is an act rather than just a statement. Today, I’ll be sharing some ways in which you can practice self love.
Self love means different things but in the end, it is about giving yourself that appreciation, love, care and treating yourself just as kindly as you would treat a friend. It is extremely important and it should be practiced as often as possible. Self love should be practiced every day and here are some ways to practice it.
LEARN TO SAY NO
Some people find it difficult to say no. There’s absolutely no law that says you need to give in to everything and say yes all the time and even if there’s a law like that f**k that law. You have the right to say no. There’s nothing wrong with saying no. Saying no when you do not feel like doing something or getting involved in it is a way of showing that you care about what you want and you are not afraid to show it so start learning to say no.
STOP CARING ABOUT WHAT OTHER’S THINK OF YOU
So many of us care too much about what people think. We want everybody to like us, we want to be in everyone’s good books. We care too much about what other’s think that we end up turning ourselves into people pleasers. No matter how kind and lovely you are, you can’t be in everyone’s good books darling.
Be yourself and stop caring what anyone thinks. People’s opinion of you is like a broken calculator. That shit doesn’t count. What anyone thinks of you is none of your business. What anyone thinks of you is bullshit. It’s crap. If they think you are awesome, that’s fine but if they think otherwise, it’s their problem and not yours. The only thing that matters is what you think about yourself.
AVOID TOXIC PEOPLE
Babes, your mental health should be the most important thing to you. If hanging out with someone has a negative effect on you and your mental health, cut that person off. Nothing should be allowed to ruin your happiness and your mental health and being around toxic people does just that. Surround yourself with people who love, encourage you and feel your life with positive vibes. Do away with anyone that could have a negative effect on you and always put you first.
TAKE IT EASY ON YOURSELF AND CELEBRATE SMALL WINS
You really don’t need to buy yourself a Rolls Royce before you celebrate. Even if you get a small promotion at work, celebrate it. No matter how small and minute it may look, it is an achievement and it is worth celebrating. Also, learn to take it easy on yourself. Believe me, life can get so tough to an extent that you start to beat yourself up about every single thing that goes wrong. No matter how terrible things get, please take it easy on yourself. Beating yourself up has never helped anyone instead it worsens the situation.
SAY POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS TO YOURSELF
Affirmations are amazing and they could turn your life around. When you wake up everyday, say something positive to yourself. Tell yourself you are blessed, amazing. Confess positive things. Positive affirmations work and saying positive affirmations to yourself is a great way to practice self love.
While self love goes way beyond bubble baths, your favourite drink and the likes, self love cannot be complete if you don’t spoil yourself to the things you love be it a bubble bath, your favourite food or anything you love so go out and treat yourself. Have fun and do those things that make you happy. That thing you love, get it. That thing that makes you happy, do it. Those people that make you happy spend time with them. Life is too short to be doing things that don’t make you happy so spoil yourself silly.
STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS
STOP the comparison! Do not, I repeat do not compare yourself to anyone. Everyone is different. Everyone is running a different race and everyone has different lives to lead same way everyone has different problems, strengths and weaknesses. No two people are the same. Your strength may be their weakness and your weakness could be their strength. Do not ever compare yourself to others.
Stop caring about who is doing better than you. You are doing better than you were doing years ago. It’s you versus you not you versus someone else. It is not easy to not compare yourself to others but it is not impossible either. Learning to not compare yourself with others will increase your confidence in yourself, it will better your life and it will make you appreciate you for you. Instead of comparing yourself to others, be patient with yourself. You will blossom in due time.
ACCEPT THE FACT THAT BEAUTY ISN’T JUST ABOUT THE PHYSICAL
True beauty comes from within. Yes physical beauty exists but we tend to prioritize the external beauty more than the internal beauty whereas the beauty that lies within matters most. Accept the fact that the internal beauty matters most and never let anyone or anything you see make you feel ugly or not sexy. You are beautiful inside out but what matter’s the most is the beauty inside you.
FEEL YOUR FEELINGS
A crucial aspect of self love is allowing yourself to feel your feelings whether positive or negative. Always allow yourself to feel your feelings and if it is a negative feeling or emotion, allow yourself to feel it too just don’t allow it take over you and do not let it affect you negatively either.
CONTROL YOUR MIND
Our minds can be rebellious. It tells us what it shouldn’t tell us sometimes. Sometimes, I find myself wondering if my mind is really in my favour. Sometimes, I’m like you are my mind, you are meant to be on my side and you are meant to be my best friend. How come it looks like you are my biggest enemy?
Well, that’s the irony of life I guess. Do not let your mind bring negativity to you. Be in control of your mind and do not allow it weigh you down in any way. You own your mind, you may not be able to totally control what goes on in your mind but you definitely have some control over it.
We all make mistakes and sometimes, forgiving yourself might not be easy but it is worth it. You know that friend that wronged you real bad. You forgave him/her right? Why can’t you forgive yourself then? If your friend is worthy of forgiveness, you are equally worthy of forgiveness so let go. The past cannot be undone and making mistakes is not a death sentence. Sometimes, we need to make mistakes so that we can get better. Forgive yourself and let go.
FIND SOMETHING TO BE GRATEFUL FOR EACH DAY
Everyone has bad days and believe me it’s normal. No one’s gonna be happy all the time and that’s fine. We are humans, we have off days, we make mistakes and there are days when everything seems like it is crashing down which is fine too.
It can be really difficult to find something to be grateful for each day especially during tough times but gratitude is key and acknowledging the positives and finding things to be grateful for each day regardless of the situation will make your problems seem less daunting and it will change your overall outlook on life.
EAT GOOD FOOD
Now someone’s gonna think. “Does eating good food have anything to do with self love?!” and here’s my answer oh yes it does. Practicing self love does not only mean taking care of your emotional wellbeing alone. It means taking care of your emotional wellbeing, your health and everything about yourself. Food plays a crucial role in our wellbeing and health so make sure you have good food all the time.
GET 8 SOLID HOURS OF SLEEP
Getting 8 hours of sleep has always been so hard for me. I have always had a really terrible sleep routine not because I want to but somehow it’s always been like that and lately, I have decided to start getting as much sleep as possible. Basically, my sleep life is trash haha.
I sleep so late, yet I wake up countless number of times every night (getting 5 – 6 hours of interrupted sleep every night and sometimes less). I definitely want to change that as better sleep has a lot of benefits. Everyone gets more productive after a good night’s sleep and getting good sleep is great for the overall wellbeing.