This is a topic I feel like I should talk about and a lot of people might be offended by this but I don’t care. I don’t give a fuck! Why should guys be strong all the time?
I grew up to meet this belief that guys don’t/should not cry. Like seriously?! Guys are always supposed to be macho and strong but every other person is allowed to have down times. What the hell brought about such a myopic thought and point of view? Guys are humans. They have emotions too. They have feelings, they get hurt, they feel pain so why can’t they show their pain?
So many guys bottle up a lot and try to act strong to everyone whereas they are broken on the inside. Why do we have to make it seem like guys are some emotionless aliens from another planet? Why should they not cry? Girls feel pain and they cry right? Why can’t guys cry then? I get so mad when I hear the statement “you are a guy you shouldn’t be crying”. WHAAAT?!
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NO ONE HAS TO BE STRONG ALL THE TIME
Why do guys have to be strong all the time? Why do they come off as weaklings when they show emotions? The guys have to be strong all the time concept has made it difficult for some guys to show their real emotions just so they don’t come off as less of a guy. Dear guys, it’s okay to cry, feel sad and have down times. You are allowed to feel your feelings and there’s nothing wrong with crying, feeling sad and all.
Do not let anyone tell you that you have to be strong all the time. No one is ever strong all the time. It’s high time we change our mentality about certain things. So many guys are out there suffering and dying inside but looking all good on the outside because they don’t want to go against the usual “men should always be strong, men shouldn’t cry” thing.
EVEN MEN HAVE EMOTIONS
Crying, being weak and allowing yourself to feel your emotions doesn’t make you less of the man that you are. It doesn’t change you. You remain the same darling! I don’t have a brother but I have friends who are guys. In short, 80% of my friends are guys. While a good number of my guy friends don’t care about the guys have to be strong all the time concept, some of them care about it and never show how they are feeling because they are scared someone’s gonna see them as a weak guy. As a guy, crying, having down times and allowing yourself to feel your feelings would not make you less of a guy. You are allowed to feel your feelings, emotions and react to them in whatever way seems best.
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KEEP READING – WHY SHOULD GUYS BE STRONG ALL THE TIME?
Funny enough, in the same way there’s a myth about guys having to be strong all the time, there’s this myth about girls being cry babies too. Girls are seen as the one’s who are always crying. They are seen as emotional b*tches. Babes, I am a girl and I am far from being emotional. I do have my down days and days when I am not my best. I get emotional sometimes too but overall, I am not an emotional person. Stop seeing us as cry babies. WE ARE NOT! While I do agree that girls are more emotional compared to guys, we are not always crying. Just so you know.
Everyone’s emotion is valid, no one is always strong all the time and you are allowed to feel your emotions, have down times and tear up if you need to. Encouraging guys to suppress their emotions and act macho and tough all the time can have a lasting damaging effect on them and their mental health later in life. We should all be allowed to feel our feelings and react to them in whatever way seems best.