This is a topic I feel like I should talk about and a lot of people might be offended by this but I don’t care. I don’t give a fuck!
I grew up to meet this belief that guys don’t/should not cry. Like seriously?! Guys are always supposed to be macho and strong but every other person is allowed to have down times. What the hell brought about such a myopic thought and point of view? Guys are humans. They have emotions too. They have feelings. They get hurt. They feel pain so why can’t they show their pain. Why can’t they show their weaknesses?
So many guys bottle up a lot and try to act strong to everyone whereas they are so broken on the inside. Why do we have to make it seem like guys are some emotionless aliens from another planet? Why should guys not cry? Girls feel pain and they cry right? Why can’t guys cry then? Why is it that guys are not allowed to show their weaknesses? I get so mad when I hear the statement “you are a guy you shouldn’t be crying”. WHAAAT?!
Why do guys have to act strong all the time? Why does a guy showing emotions make him look like a weakling? The guys have to be strong all the time concept has made it difficult for some guys to show their real emotions just so they don’t come off as less of a guy. If you are a guy reading this, you are allowed to cry, to feel sad, to have down times. Those are basic human emotions that you shouldn’t deprive yourself of. You are allowed to feel your feelings. You matter and your feelings are just as important.
Do not let anyone tell you that you have to be strong all the time. No one is ever strong all the time. I feel like it’s high time we change our mentality about certain things. So many guys are out there suffering and dying inside but looking all good on the outside because they don’t want to go against the usual “men should always be strong, men shouldn’t cry” thing.
Crying, being weak and allowing yourself to feel your emotions doesn’t make you less of the man that you are. It doesn’t change you. You remain the same darling! I don’t have a brother but I have friends who are guys. In short, a large amount of my friends are guys. While a good number of my guy friends don’t care about the guys have to be strong all the time concept, some of them care about it and never show how they are feeling because they are scared someone’s gonna see them as a weak guy. As a guy, crying, having down times and allowing yourself to feel your feelings would not make you less of a guy. You are allowed to feel your feelings, emotions and react to them in whatever way seems best.
Funny enough, in the same way there’s this myth about guys having to be strong all the time, there’s this myth about girls being cry babies too. Girls are seen as the one’s who are always crying. They are seen as emotional b*tches anyways. Babes, I am a girl and I am far from being emotional. I do have my down days and days when I am not my best. I get emotional sometimes too but overall, I am not an emotional person. Stop seeing us as cry babies. WE ARE NOT! While I do agree that girls are more emotional compared to guys, we are not always crying. Just so you know.
Mental health issues are not always taken seriously when it has to do with guys. When it comes to emotions, mental health issues and the likes, girls are often treated better. I’m a girl and I love that but just as much as we want women to be treated with equality when it comes to office positions and the likes, we want men to be treated with equality when it comes to emotional and mental health issues (if that makes sense). Everyone’s emotion is valid, no one is always strong all the time and you are allowed to feel your emotions, have down times and tear up if you need to. Encouraging guys to suppress their emotions and act macho and tough all the time can have a lasting damaging effect on them and their mental health later in life. We should all be allowed to feel our feelings and react to them in whatever way seems best.