Self love is a word (or are two words rather lol) that are thrown around so much these days so much that sometimes, I wonder if people really know what they are referring to when they talk about self love. Self love covers a whole range of aspects and I wish practicing it is as easy as it is thrown around.
So many people talk about self love. So many people post about it, but what is self love? What does it really mean? Everyone wants to talk about it. Everyone claims to be an advocate of self love but in our closets, corners and when no one is there, do we really love ourselves? This is a question you honey bunny reading this should answer.
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Now what is self love?
Self love is being confident in yourself and having a positive view of yourself. It is the belief that you are a unique, amazing and valuable person. Loving yourself doesn’t mean you are perfect (nah far from it). But learning to love yourself and your imperfections while fully knowing that the imperfections are present is everything.
Loving yourself doesn’t mean you are the smartest, most beautiful/handsome, or even the most talented or upright person in the world. It just means that you value yourself enough to accept yourself, your flaws and love yourself for who you are.
Self love is about getting in touch with yourself, your life, your well-being and your happiness. It helps us make healthy and amazing choices in life.
So many of us get carried away with loving others – (our wives, husbands, girlfriends, kids, parents, siblings, friends, boyfriends and others) that we end up neglecting and forgetting how to love ourselves. It might not be easy for us to love ourselves but self love is a necessity and is important if you really want to become the best version of yourself.
No one’s perfect
We live in a world where perfection seems to be the norm. But the fact is nothing and nobody is perfect no matter how glammed up they look or seem. I am not perfect, you are not perfect and nobody is perfect. Yea you heard right!
That girl you see on Instagram who looks so beautiful, sexy, with a figure 8, and whose life seems all perfect is not perfect. She has issues too. Yea, the same girl you envy so much and wish you were. Those people who seem like they have everything from money to looks and everything in between are not perfect either. No one is perfect so learn to see the beauty in your imperfections.
Self love is an act. And it can also be defined as the act of making a conscious effort to love and appreciate yourself for everything you are, everything you have been and everything you will become. It is the act of respecting and having an extremely high regard for your self, your opinions, and your well-being.
It is not settling for anything less than you deserve. (When you love yourself, you will never settle for less). Self love is hell of a necessity in today’s world. It goes way beyond treating yourself to bubble baths and the earlier you realize that, the better it will be.
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Each individual is extremely special. You are very special and there is no other person like you in this world. You are a rare gem. Practicing and making self love a daily routine can prove to be extremely difficult and challenging. But it is an extremely important aspect of living a happy life.
Everyone would totally agree that it is easier for us to love ourselves when everything is going fine, smoothly and extremely well. But in times when things seem difficult, in times when there are challenges we tend to be so much harder on ourselves and forget to love ourselves and that is wrong.
If you only love yourself when everything’s fine and things are going rosy, then you need to improve on your self love. When you truly love yourself, you will vouch for you even when things are toughest.
Most times all we are good at doing is judging ourselves, comparing ourselves to others, being extremely hard on ourselves, and criticizing ourselves. But we hardly ever praise ourselves, treat ourselves to one of our favorites, and show ourselves some love. Some of us don’t even celebrate our success but we always make sure to criticize ourselves when we fail and that is completely wrong.
Celebrate yourself – Even the smallest feats
Celebrating yourself is part of self love. If you reach a milestone in your life or do something really amazing and you can’t give yourself accolades, praise and celebrate yourself but you praise others on having the slightest progress then you probably don’t love yourself.
Don’t get me wrong, there’s absolutely no harm in giving others accolades but the thing is you shouldn’t only celebrate or give others accolades you should also celebrate and give yourself accolades too. Giving yourself accolades, celebrating yourself on the smallest achievement and praising yourself is an extremely important aspect of self love.
Self love goes hand in hand with self care
Self love goes hand in hand with self care. If you love yourself you will care for yourself. Imagine you got an iPhone 12 and you really love it (from the colours to the shape and everything about it.) You would take care of that iPhone like your life depends on it. You will shield it if you need to and some would even go as far as punching someone just because of that iPhone haha.
Now take this iPhone scenario and apply it to yourself. When you love something, you protect it, you care for it. In the same way, when you love yourself, you will care for you. Do you care for yourself? Okay let’s say you do. Do you show yourself as much care, love and appreciation as you are supposed to? There you go sugar plum! That question is for you.
Self love is a crucial part of life. You can’t really move mountains and achieve milestones if you do not love yourself. The benefits of loving yourself can never be overemphasized. When it comes to self love, everyone’s journey is different. My self love journey is different from yours and yours is different from mine but we are all working to reach a common goal.